Everything Changes, Everything Stays The Same

Everything Changes

After all, we’re getting married. Not in a “Gee – I’d really like to marry her one day” type of way but in a “we’re working out the technicalities of making this thing happen” kind of way. That’s big and exciting and scary in just about anyone’s language. One of the interesting things that change is the way people see the relationship. Whereas in some ways before spending time with the girlfriend is seen as something that gets in the way of hanging out with friends, mates suddenly start recognising that time as something a little bit more sacred. It’s a subtle shift, but it’s definitely noticeable. Outward displays of affection which were politely ignored or tolerated, are now encouraged. It’s almost a little bit freaky.

There’s no doubt now about this relationship having a definite purpose now – there’s an endpoint that can be seen. Even though we’ve been serious about this whole thing the whole time, there’s undoubtedly now a new element of importance. We can’t just forget each other. It’s a big deal. It’s only going to keep getting bigger.

Everything Stays the Same 

I woke up on the Monday after and had to go to work. I’m still the same person. The struggles are still the same – we’ve just now got more pressure to cope with. I haven’t become instantly more mature, nor have I received some great deeper additional connection with God. I’m still me.

Fortunately Rebecca is still herself too. She still smiles at me, laughs when I’m even moderately amusing, holds me and loves me. And it’s wonderful.