Dealing with (my) incompetence

I like to think of myself as a fairly competent person. I’m good at lots of things, and usually at least capable in others. But there are a few exceptions.

Friday night was “Graffiti” night at youth group, and it exposed one of my clearest areas of talentlessness. I have the artistic ability of your average coffee mug. The ideas are good, but the execution is always lacking. The only time I have any semblance of positive results is when I’m behind a computer. But paint and all that doesn’t have an undo function, and my efforts never end up exactly how I’d like them to. The frustrating thing is that I can see the desired effect in my head – I know what I want to do, but I can’t make my hands produce it. I hate it.

The next big encounter with my own inabilities happened on Sunday morning. We had the youth team coming over for breakfast and I was cooking up the traditional fare: bacon, eggs, tomato and mushroom. Too easy, right? Nup. The bacon was, shall we say “over-crisped”, and the eggs ranged from virtually scrambled through to nice sunny-side up and then pretty much burned. It wasn’t, all said and done (wait, where have I heard that before), a particularly successful venture.

But the biggest issue isn’t that I’m not that good in the kitchen. The biggest issue is the internal (and perhaps the external) dialogue going on as the whole deal is happening. The voice that’s going: “You should be better than this.” “Why can’t you just do it?” “Don’t be so stupid!” When you’ve got the hindsight you can see just how messed up the thinking is. But when it’s happening – there’s a complete absence of perspective.

So I’m really hoping that there’s some magical formula that other people use to get over not being good at stuff. Particularly if it’s when you really want to be good at it. I know that’s optimistic, but I want to hear it. So, here’s your chance to dazzle me with your brilliant solution. Or perhaps just some handy hints.

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4 Comments

  1. Posted 21 August, 2006 4:22 pm at 4:22 pm | Permalink

    ahh, geoffie.

    ever heard the saying, “practise makes perfect”. well, it does have some merit.
    the more you do something, the better you are going to get at it.

    for art, or cooking even, its good to learn from people who are rather good at it. or look at books. the more you immerse yourself in what you are trying to learn, the better you will be at it.

    and, dont give up. thats a major thing with people when they cant acchieve something the first time, they give up.
    being ‘good’ at something you arent too good at in the beginning, takes time and effort.

    but, stick with it and you will get there :)

  2. Posted 21 August, 2006 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm | Permalink

    thankfully the average coffee mug is probably quite secretly creative. Like Sam said, practice! While with something like art it’s handy to have some natural ability, but you don’t really have to…it just means you’ll have to work harder. Cooking is exactly the same. Some have the knack and some don’t. I’d suggest enjoying not being good at certain things, means that you have an excuse to spend more time doing them. Besides if you were good at everything it would be so hard to tease you!

  3. Posted 21 August, 2006 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm | Permalink

    The only thing that’s ever worked (in the artish area) for me was deciding one day that I was going to be good at it. So I was (okayish) It lasted a good three or four years but obviously wasn’t quite what it was cut out to be. Stick where your passions are, you always end up doing a better job.

    And don’t come to me to learn to cook.
    (although I can do bacon and eggs)

  4. Posted 21 August, 2006 11:45 pm at 11:45 pm | Permalink

    *artish area being painting/drawing and the like.